Overcome Jealousy
The jealous bring down the curse they fear upon their own heads. ~Dorothy Dix
What is jealousy
Jealousy is an emotion that shows up when there is a threat in a relationship. Jealousy is the wish to keep for ourselves the person we love. For example. When I was a child I got jealous at my brother when my parents gave him something. I though he was more lovable than me. I had also became jealous when my husband was giving too much attention to other people instead of me.
I was raised to believe that we can control people through jealousy . It was good to jealous about your spouse or make your spouse jealous , it as a sign of real love. Through the years I learned to overcome jealousy understanding that like any other emotion is not good nor bad. But when is used to manipulate situations, it becomes toxic.
Jealousy as a toxic emotionJealousy as a toxic emotion is when you manipulate somebody you love. You do not believe that you are lovable enough. You are afraid to loose this person. This is the case when low esteem plays a role. When you are insecure about yourself you will exaggerate events and it will be difficult to overcome jealousy. For example. If I see my husband talking to another women. I will start feeling insecure and I will image things that are not real: "He likes her more than me". "She wants to take him away from me".
Jealousy as a healthy emotionJealousy as a healthy emotion is an alert that something is going wrong. It is based on facts. If I see my husband seducing somebody else and I am jealous , this is called protective jealousy.
How to overcome jealousy
- To overcome jealousy you have to own your feelings. Be aware that your are feeling the emotion : jealousy. This is the most important step to overcome jealousy.
- Work on your insecurity when dealing with jealousy by making the right questions .Learn to remember that you are not your thoughts or emotions. Learn the difference between observation and interpretation. This is a great tool to overcome jealousy. Observation is the actual fact. Is something that you detect is happening. (my husband has been talking to that women since we got here). Interpretation is what you think the observation means.(my husband is flirting with that women since we got here). The interpretation creates fear , in this case, my partner will leave me for sombody else.
- Building self esteem is the best tool to overcome jealousy. If you have a healthy esteem you will distinguish jealousy as toxic or healthy . Why?. Because you will not need to manipulate people to love you. You are confidence enought. You are centered and confident about your worth and it will be easier for you to overcome jealousy.
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