Building Self-Esteem - a guide to help you feel good and achieve a balance and respect for who you are

Building Self Esteem Guide

If you are struggling with low self-respect you must be tolerating abusive relationships, depression and lack of confidence. In order to begin your building self esteem journeyyou have to achieve a balance and respect for who you are. I would like to share this self esteem guide as a self-help tool for you to start your journey.

Why building self esteem is important . The main 12 reasons

Self-AcceptanceThe key for change

Know Your Self By

Managing emotions

When you experience healthy emotions you feel good, expanded, your heart open. Feeling negative emotions contract you, drain your vitality and energyp.

Nurturing your mind

What is the mind? You don't find the mind anywhere in the body, you find the brain. Let's say that the mind is like the software and the body is the hardware. It perceives, thinks, recognizes and experiences and reacts to the environment.

Taking care of your body

In the past I thought that taking care of my body wasn't important because the spiritual side of myself was the one that I have to focus. I have realized that it is important because if I don't take care of it , I won't live healthy.

Honoring your Spirit

What is your spirit? Have you ever asked this question? What do you believe? Do you believe that you are a spiritual being having a human experience or that you are a human being having a Spiritual experience?

Find the Effects

Eating disorders People who suffer eating disorders often have a distorted perception of their body . Your self image influence your behavior. Also your self esteem and confidence. It is the opinion of how you think you look to other people. It involves also how you see yourself and how you think other people judge you.	Arrogance "Arrogant" has become a completely negative word in our culture. I will address this word and concept in its virtually always used negative meaning below but I wanted to begin by pointing out that arrogance did not start off as being negative. Instead, it started off as usually being a royal prerogative.
Victim Mentality The victim mentality is a self-defeating pattern which does one of two things, or more commonly both together. The victim mentality causes you to think that you cannot make the changes in your life that you desire to make because of others, for reasons that you cannot define, mysteriously "have it out" for you and wish you ill will, and thus they do things to set you back, harm you emotionally, etc.	Fear and anxiety Those who suffer from low self esteem experience fear and anxiety. They are extremely anxious and lack confidence. Fear and anxiety is one of the symptoms of low self esteem. The difference between fear and anxiety is that with fear, you can identify the source of your emotion whereas with anxiety the source is unidentifiable.
Pessimism When you are always expecting the worst you create and attitude of pessimism . If you are constantly expecting the worst you are either thinking that somebody will do something bad to you or that you won't be able to achieve what you want. When you immerse yourself in pessimism you become a victim .	Distorted Body Image Body image is the perception one person has about his or her physical appearance. There is a distorted misconception about self esteem and body Image. I have found that this misconceptions exists because our society teaches us to find beauty outside ourselves, in our body.
Self-Hate In this article I would like to talk about self hate also known as self-hatred, that is a destructive pattern that can ruin your life. What is self hate. How self hatred is developed and ways for overcoming self hate .	Depression, Anxiety, and Insomnia Emotional problems can greatly impact a person's life. A person that is emotionally disturbed may encounter difficulties in learning and establishing relationships with others. They may also exhibit inappropriate behaviors, unwarranted fears, and are unhappy most of the time.
Low Self-Confidence Sometimes you may feel low self confidence at work as well as in your relationships with loved ones, coworkers, and friends. You may even experience low confidence when it comes to your body. No matter what the situation is those feelings happen.	Insecurity issues When you experience feelings of insecurity your tendency is to believe that you are never good enough. Insecurity leads you to believe that you are incompetent and helpless to face problems.
Fear of rejection Fear of rejection is an irrational fear of not being accepted for who you are. Fear of rejection is cause by lack of confidence and self esteem. You may have developed this fears during your childhood if your parents constantly compared you with others.	Shyness I learned to overcome shyness by building confidence , self esteem and being myself . Some tips for overcoming shyness I have used are.
People Pleasers Some of us have been taught that we have to be nice to win other's people approval. I personally tried to be nice for a long time. Not only because my mother was "too nice", but because by seen her acting that way I was convinced that was the only way to get others love and approval.	Caring too much about what others think Are you always worried about what other people think of you?. Do you plan your outfits, your food choices, or your social activities solely around others' opinions?. Caring too much about what other people think is downright destructive.
Co dependency Home » Codependency symptoms Low self esteem Signs \| Fear of rejection \| Perfectionism Codependency symptoms by Carla Valencia I come from a family with a codependent mother. I am neither judging her nor blaming. But identifying codependency symptoms in her helped me a lot to overcome low self esteem.	Perfectionism What is perfectionism? Perfectionism is when no effort is ever good enough. when you become fearful of making mistakes or of being humiliated. everything must be perfect. when you never seem to have enough time to do your best. when you demand perfection and intolerant of others's mistakes.
Jealousy Jealousy is an emotion that shows up when there is a threat in a relationship. Jealousy in a relationship is the wish to keep for ourselves the person we love. For example. When I was a child I got jealous at my brother when my parents gave him something. I though he was more lovable than me. I	Guilt If you want to feel good about yourself you have to learn to let go of guilt. When you feel guilty you have the tendency to punish yourself, deep inside you think you are a bad person. Therefore you may develop a tendency to hurt yourself, self-sabotage and self-hate.

Find the Causes

Parents Negligence. Children brought up where love and affections is lacking, feel abandoned and insignificant as adults.	Excessive Criticism: When children are constantly criticized as adults lack worth, they become pessimistic and think they will never be enough.
Past failures. Those who fail to achieve their goals and dreams begin to think that they are a failure and this results in loss of esteem.	Bad physical appearance leads to inferiority complex
Child abuse. Physical, emotional or sexual abuse harms self esteem	Negative Experiences that are not resolved harm a person's self esteem.