Developing a positive self image is an inside job - It requires acceptance and forgiveness. Find your inner beauty.

Self image is a picture of what you think you are, not who you really are. The key for developing a positive self image is to find out who you really are.

Everything you do in your life is influenced by your self image. Developing a positive self image will change you life for good.

Remember that your self image comes from your childhood and your parents, friends, family, authority figures and the environment.

If you receive messages like you are too fat, you are stupid, and so forth you had incorporated those ideas and have not even question them.

For developing a positive self image you must start questioning those ideas.

The more you concentrate on feeling good inside and building your own self-image, the easier it will be for you to accept other people and succeed massively in your life.

4 ways for developing a positive self image:

1. Accept yourself. The most important step is accept who you are right now. Avoiding this step will not let you to develop a positive self image because you will be resisting your reality and you will remain stuck. Learn to love yourself and accept your flaws. This is who you are right now and who do you think you are. And it does not have to remain the same.
2. Make a list of the negative messages you received in the past. Just start with 4 or 5 ideas. Let say somebody told you that you are stupid. Write it down. Start questioning this statement. Is it true? Who told me this?. What were the circumstances I was going through?. May be you were doing something wrong at that time and they called you stupid. This does not mean that you will remain forever stupid. It was the other person perception and expression of frustration.
3. Find your strengths. It is important that you start to find the opposite on the list. Free yourself from the resentment and frustration that they called you that way. Find another situation when you found yourself doing something clever. Celebrate the event and start to see yourself smart and clever. Another example. You were told that you were fat. Ok, may be you are fat but this does’n mean that you will remain fat forever. Even if you can’t find a time that you were thin, find a time that you tried to become thin. Congratulate yourself because you tried. In this case there are three possibilities : you were always fat and because you were told over and over or because of unresolved issues you create that image for you and accept it. The second possibility is that you were fat , you are now and you are comfortable with it. Just try to question why?. The third one is you were fat. Let’s say during adolescence and because of that you remain fat because you have accepted it as part of your self image.
4. Invest your time with people who compliment you and support you. Stay away from people that put you down and only criticize you.

Developing a positive self image is an inside job. It requires acceptance, forgiveness and willingness to let go of your past and recognize your strengths and inner beauty. The more you focus on feeling good inside and developing a positive self image, the easier will be for you to start seen yourself with a different perspective.

Apply this tips at least a few minutes each day, remember that small is better. Step by step you will find that you have began to develop a positive self image. Remember also that you will be working on messages that cause you pain. Not everything we were told is negative. Look for the messages that are stopping you from creating a happier and fulfil ling life.

Nex Article

What do you think about this article?

Resource box for publishing

© Carla Valencia. All right Reserved. For more articles and information visit Building Self Esteem

Feel free to reprint this article in its entirety in your ezine or on your site. Make sure to add the resource box as listed above with the link and do not modify the content .