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Some characteristics of low self esteem
Boost your self esteem newsletter Issue # 4
Some characteristics of low self esteem are the tendency to have thoughts and feelings that are negative .To be afraid to make mistakes. Constant dissatisfaction and frustration.
Another characteristics of low self esteem are the tendency to be suspicious and defensive. Lack of boundaries and assertiveness because of fear of abandonment.
Fear of abandonment and fear of being hurt are also important characteristics as well as avoiding being alone. Fear of change, evasive and lack of communication.
I found a complete description of some characteristics of low self esteem at The Family Centre of Northern Alberta (Assoc.) that I would like to share with you:
- Feel and act like a victim. Expecting the worst in life and becoming powerless. Self-pity . Afraid of abandonment.
- Judgmental . Their tendency is to use judgment to feel better about themselves and put other people down.
- Break agreements, violate own standards. They don't believe in themselves.
- Cover, phony , because they can't be natural.
- Exaggerate, pretend, and lie because of their insecurity
- Self-deprecating, shameful, blaming, critical
- Nice person, constant approval-seeking, people pleaser because their fear of rejection
- Tendency toward negative attitude and pessimism.
- Rationalize to justify fear of change.
- Jealousy /envy , they feel unlovable and unworthy.
- Perfectionist , fear of failure and afraid to make mistakes.
- Dependencies - Codependency : have emotionally destructive relationships that are one-sided pleasing and therefore abusive . Addictions, compulsive, stagnant . Eating disorders and other disorders
- Not liking the work one does
- Leave tasks and relationships unfinished , lack of intimacy in relationships.
- Judge worth by comparing, feel inferior
- Doesn't accept or give compliments
- Excessive worry and anxiety.
- Fearful of exploring real self
- Shun new endeavors, fearing mistake or failure
- Irrational responses, ruled by emotions
- Lack of purpose in life , no direction, confusion.
- Feeing inadequate to handle new situations because of insecurity and perfectionism.
- Feel resentful and One down when I lose.
- Vulnerable to others’ opinion, comment and attitudes. People pleasing and looking for constant approval.
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