The Shadow Effect - a transformative movie that can change your relationship

Shadow and Relationships by Carla Valencia

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. Carl Jung

Yesterday I watched the Shadow Effect movie by Debbie Ford. It is a profound movie which seeks to answer the question “ What is the shadow?”. According to the late Dr. Carl Jung, the Shadow describes the unconscious, darker, and repressed aspects of our personalities that we tend to deny. This can play havoc with our relationships .

We all project onto other people parts of ourselves that we disown and deny. We will usually not identify with the projected quality or characteristic at all. It’s them. It’s not us.

How to work with the Shadow in relationships

The first thing we have to do in order to begin to see our Shadow aspects and integrate them into our conscious awareness. Which we need to do in order to be able to have healthy relationships instead of painful or failed ones, is to take total responsibility for our lives.

We have to change our attitude from blame and projection to personal responsibility and honest self-assessment. There are steps we can take to make this happen.

• Notice who comes into your life and irritates you or is able to push all of your buttons. Ask the question: What is it about that person I can't stand, that is so unacceptable to me?. Whatever it is, it is something that actually resides inside of you, in your Shadow. Something that you don’t want to believe or accept about yourself.


• If you are judging this person because of his/her anger, ask yourself if you are filled with anger. Do you have the tendency to reflect these traits?. The traits that disturb you the most in an emotionally charged way in another person are the ones that you try hardest to deny in yourself.


• You might be trying to deny your anger. You must therefore be true to yourself and accept your anger. Many people have suppressed feelings of anger. You must face whatever you are angry about so that you can decide if it is justified or if it is misplaced and must be let go of.


• Once you make peace with yourself and accept your anger, you will find that others‘ anger no longer pushes your buttons. You will also find that you are not attracted to having relationships with constantly angry people any longer.

You can also follow steps like these with regards to overcoming other negative hidden traits.

In Conclusion

The Shadow Effect is an inspiring, moving and transformative movie. There are contributions from famous writers like Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, and Mark Victor Hansen. There are also interviews with a Holocaust survivor, a child abuse victim, and a peace activist. Please watch The Shadow Effect movie - Starring: Debbie Ford, Marianne Williamson - Director: Scott Cervine . If you are serious about overcoming low self-esteem and self-sabotaging behaviors such as repressing your Shadow traits. Take this emotionally gripping.

Visually compelling journey into your mysterious shadow self , the hiding place for your most disliked thoughts, emotions, and impulses. Discover how by embracing your worst fears, you can step into your greatest self. Be transformed by Debbie Ford. Be inspired to uncover the wisdom in your wounds. The blessings in your misfortunes, and the gifts that are waiting to be claimed where you may least expect them in the dark.

Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. At all counts, it forms an unconscious snag, thwarting our most well-meant intentions. Dr. Carl G. Jung