People with low self esteem sabotage their relationships . They feel responsible for the other's people feelings or happiness. Don't set boundaries and become pleasing with their partner. If you have a good self esteem you will do things that feed this feeling, that is why self esteem is important.

Why self esteem is important

Healthy relationships are based on respect,trust and sharing . In order to have respect and trust for your partner you have to respect and trust in you. You must have a good self esteem.

To be comfortable with others you have to be comfortable with yourself. Consider your feelings about yourself. Notice if you can be yourself or you lack self esteem and confidence:

• Do you really believe that you deserve love and to be happy ?.
• Can you accept that the other person loves you or do you feel unlovable?.
• Do you have enough self confidence to set boundaries ?.

As Nathaniel Branden said:

"The higher our self esteem, the more disposed we are to form nourishing rather than toxic relation ships. Health is attracted to health. Vitality and expansiveness in others are naturally more appealing to persons of good self esteem than are emptiness and dependency. Self-confident women and men are naturally drawn to one another. Alas, insecure women and men are also drawn to one another.

If you hope to be happy with another person, no factor is more important than self esteem -- in you and in the other person. There is no greater barrier to romantic success than the deep- seated feeling that one is unlovable.

The first love affair we must consummate successfully in this world is with ourselves; only then are we ready for a relationship. Only then will we be fully able to love, and only then will we be able fully to let love in -- to accept that another person loves us".

A healthy self esteem is the first step for happiness within a relationship. An important factor for romantic success. Knowing that you deserve love and respect will create more trust and happiness with your partner. Start now building self esteem and confidence to have the ability to confront or eliminate the things that frighten you, to take more risks and nurture yourself. Read the Pamper yourself article.

Try this hypnosis download - Self esteem in a relationship . Sometimes low self esteem makes you defensive and feeling like you are being criticised when you are not! Low self-esteem can present as over-sensitivity. Very low self-esteem makes a person describe himself as 'unlovable' and even say things like: 'He/She is only with me for sex/money/out of pity/duty/until they meet someone better!'. Truly value yourself and accept the reality for you that it is right and naturally for them to feel positively towards you.

Abusive Relationship. You spend time talking together without fear of being judged, shouted at or worst physically violated. There is no excuse for violence, dependency, constant nit picking or verbal bullying. You may have been brainwashed thinking that you can't function without your abusive partner. If you've been abused then you have been dominated and because of that you may feel scared of them to some extent. This may make the thought of finishing with them terrifying. If you want to end but you lack confidence and self esteem , this hypnosis session may be for you to solve this issue.

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It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others." -- Sydney J. Harris