Building children self esteem

Boost your Self Esteem Newsletter Issue # 23

Parents attitude is crucial for building children self esteem . They learn to feel secure about themselves from their parent’s attitudes and behaviors. If you are constantly criticizing , they will grow up feeling insecure with low self esteem.

Here are some ideas for helping your children :

• Praise your child. Always praise when doing something right. Show your child appreciation and tell that you are proud of him/her. Touch and hold your child and share activities. This is the best way for creating a sense of connection and acceptance.
• Let your child decide. Don’t tell what to dress for example. Go shopping and let your child choose. Encourage them to pay , let them to go to the cash register and pay . Children love to be important. Encourage them, create a sense of confidence and independence.
• Do not put your child down. Start building confidence instead. If your child has a talent like writing or drawing, even sports, do not put them down because of your beliefs or your fears. Let be themselves and express their talents and activities.
• Listen to your children. Pay attention when they are talking to you, this is crucial. Make them to feel important and that what they have to say is important. They need your attention. Children need to know that what they say is important to you to develop confidence.

How much the child is appreciated and loved by their parents will depend on their parent's acknowledgement and attention. When you give your child attention and acceptance he/she will feel seen, valuable and secure.

Building your child's self esteem is the key to keep them out of drugs, eating disorders, delinquency and unhealthy relationships. It creates a sense of trust, acceptance by others, and security. Remember: attention, attitude, appreciation and connection is the best you can give to your children. Let them also know verbally and non verbally that you are proud of them.

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