Self-Esteem Course: Part 6: Self-Esteem Goals

I would like you to talk about setting your goals to start improving your Self Esteem. Goals keep you focused and motivated, and increase your likelihood of getting the things you want.  How to set your goals?

Define your goal:

Think about what you would like to achieve and write it down. Then, be specific. If your goal is: ” I will take responsibility for my life”, is a vague goal. The easy way to make your goal more accurate is to ask yourself: “What things do I need to do in order to take responsibility for my life?”. The answer could be stop blaming, stop complaining, overcome fear of rejection, etc.

Define a deadline:

This is really important because it will keep you motivated. Make sure that your goals are achievable. Do not set unrealistic goals because you will feel a lot of stress and anxiety and you might fail.

Read your goals every day to help you remain focused:

For example, let’s go back to the goal: “Taking responsibility for my life.

You might write something like this:

“Take responsibility for my life by not blaming within six months.”

Plan of action

The last stage is to write a step-by-step plan for achieving your goals. I will give you an example of your plan of action.

My goal: Take responsibility for my life by not blaming within six months.

How I will benefit from achieving this goal:

  • I will think clearly
  • I will overcome my victim mentality
  • I will create better relationships with family, friends and coworkers
  • I will have more control over my responses toward others

My concrete steps:

Monitor my self talk every day
If I catch myself blaming something or somebody stop and ask: “What is inside of me that I am becoming a victim again?

Identify the obstacles

Obstacles are the things that can stop you from getting what you want. They can be practical problems like lack of time or psychological blocks.

Common obstacles

  • Stress and fatigue.
  • Fear of failure.
  • Fear of rejection.
  • Lack of confidence in your ability to succeed.
  • Frustration.
  • Lack of motivation.

Attaining the goals

In order to achieve your goals work on the common obstacles. For example: are you afraid to take responsibility for stop blaming because you fear rejection? Then look for help and work on your fear of rejection. You can read books, find a counselor, do hypnosis, etc. Check How To Set Goals and Achieve Them.

Examples of Self-esteem goals

Examples of self-esteem goals

How to write your self-esteem goals

How to achieve your Goals

  • Surround me with positive and nourishing people.
  • Volunteer in my local community.
  • Start and exercise program.
  • Accepting my body
  • , I surround myself with positive people.
  • I Exercise for 30 minutes 3 times a week.
  • I am volunteering in my local community.
  • I am happy with my body. I am healthy, trim and fit.
  • Make short term and daily goals
  • Make them specific
  • Make them realistic
  • Don’t make goals to please someone else.

Be flexible and find multiple options to achieve your goals.

Get support. Find support in friends, counselors, therapist, even a good motivational book or reading quotes can help you to stay motivated.

Thanks for letting me share these Principles with you. I’d love to hear your feedback on your experiences, your opinion is really important, please take the survey – (only 5 questions).

Go back to Self-Esteem Course

Facebook Comments