Self-sabotage behavior

Self esteem Newsletter Issue # 36

In this issue learn more about self sabotage behavior - hope you like this article.

When you lack self esteem you self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is a pattern of behavior which you use mostly or completely subconsciously to prevent yourself from having what you really desire or accomplishing a very important personal task. Why would someone engage in self-sabotage behavior? It's the self-fulfilling prophecy of those who lack self esteem-- they believe that they don't deserve success or to have their deepest desires fulfilled; they are unworthy somehow. Low Self Esteem or poor self-image lead to sabotage behavior.

Self-sabotage behavior mainly manifests in two ways:

1. One is where you reach a certain level of success or desire-fulfillment, then suddenly you "can't" go any farther no matter how hard you try, no matter what you think up to advance yourself.
2. The other is where you attain high levels of success or joy, but then quickly and "mysteriously" lose it all (this does not refer to real personal tragedy, which can and does happen at times--that wouldn't be all that "mysterious").

Examples of self-sabotage behavior could include:

• The young novelist who writes a super best-seller and makes millions of dollars only to suddenly descend into alcoholism and become unable to write.
• A beautiful, intelligent woman who has been in a rotten marriage to a neglectful liar for years and has wanted a divorce but, when meeting the true love of her life, finds all kinds of "reasons" why she "can't" end her depressing marriage to be with her love; this might include "unintentionally" setting herself up for betrayal by her dishonest husband.
• The entrepreneur who keeps getting different online businesses up and running and rising into what will be super success, only to abandon them because they aren't building "fast enough".
• The football star who commits a crime so serious that he is banned from the game and must go to prison.
• The Ph.D. candidate who gets involved with drugs and quits the university to get "high" all the time.

How to stop self-sabotage

1. Take responsibility for it. You will need to be strictly honest with you in the mirror. Stop playing victim mentality. Don't blame others.
2. Notice when self-sabotage behavior might happen in your life. See it for what it is. Always assess everything you're doing and ask yourself, "If I do this-or-that will it lead me to more success or cause me to lose or fail?"
3. Realize that you are not only worthy of everything you desire, it is your right to discover and live a life filled with joy.
4. Don’t judge yourself too harshly. Being self-critical is one thing; being masochistic is another thing entirely.
5. Work on your beleifs. Deep inside you might beleive that you don't deserve success or you are afraid that something bad will happen when you reach it.
6. Create a self-care plan so that you can start living a healthy and balanced life. Explore Building Self Esteem hypnosis download . Help yourself appreciate yourself more, feel betterand improve your confidence. Building your self esteem will affect all areas of your life - work, social and most importantly, your relationship with yourself. It is a wonderful feeling to be reminded of your good qualities; one that can carry you through difficult times, improve your self confidence and make you feel more sure of yourself . Try these emotional development and self-healing resources: Enhance Esteem and Awareness. Overcome negativity with our healing and awareness emotional development programs. Find the hope and courage to more fully enjoy life. and watch your life change.

Get out of your own way and change this behavior that cause you to create your own obstacles. Feel safe and relaxed about your future achievements and success with this programs .

Last Month article: Feel Atractive by Carla Valencia.

To feel attractive is an inside job. If you have low self esteem you might might be feeling unattractive. Your confidence will be influenced too. You need therefore to think differently to feel attractive.

Learn de difference between beautiful and attractive and find ways to feel more attractive. Read this article.

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Comments and Testimonials

I can truly say that I have low self esteem. I try and try , but nothing seems to help. And yet there are times when I feel so confident and self asured. Perhaps I'm on the right trail and just don't know it. Warren A. W.

Healthy boundaries and knowing the difference between taking care of your self versus being narcissistic is an important balance...I'm only posting at my new travel/restauarant review site now, Carla...www.truetraltreasures.blogspot.com. Hope that all is well with you

Just came by to say hello, Carla ! How are you ?Haven't seen you over at my new blog for a bit... Hope you enjoy it when you do come by. I'm not posting on the old one any longer.The new address is :Loving Annie's Travel Treasureshttp://www.truetraveltreasures.blogspot.com. Life is 95% pain and drama free now... I never knew how good it could feel, consistently - or how easy life could become.You were one of the first people to start me on the path to healing with your blog, Carla.Thank you again and again. Genui