Put youself first

Self Esteem Newsletter Issue # 37

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Put Yourself First  Hypnosis Download  Recommended pages

Thoughts of insipiration "Self-worth comes from one thing - thinking that you are worthy". Wayne Dyer

Recommended Books The Success Principles(TM): How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

Put Yourself First

Our culture has a serious problem embedded in it. And the worst part of this problem is that it's passed off as a virtue. The problem I'm speaking of is: we are not supposed to like ourselves. If we like ourselves, we are called "selfish", and this is a dirty word. But this leads to the horrible problem of Low Self Esteem . You see, it's not being "selfish" which is wrong. It's being self-centered, thinking the whole universe revolves around you. It certainly doesn't. But you should still like yourself. Otherwise all you're really doing is wrecking your self-esteem.

Now, to improve your self esteem , you must learn to put yourself first without the feelings of guilt. Guilt is an evil emotion. When you feel guilt, it's not your "sins" that you hate; it's yourself.

Denying your needs and personal desires seems admirable, as I mentioned above. But this is superficial. With such behavior, all you'll do is disconnect with yourself. You might think that if you put yourself first you are selfish and don't care about others. But this is, once again, a terrible lie that our culture tell us.

Putting yourself first is not "selfish" (or, more precisely, being "selfish is not a bad thing) because in order to give the most and the best that you can to other people, you first must become your best. Think about it like this: who gives the most to charity? The poor?. The middle class?. No; the rich. You see, you cannot give what you don't first possess. And the more you have, the more you have to give.

When you start putting your needs and desires first you can grow and develop as a healthy and generally joyful human being. This is the only way you will be able to help other people to do the same in their lives. If you learn to put yourself first you will also feel less stressed-out, and your self-esteem and confidence will improve naturally.

You know your own needs and desires and dreams better than those of anyone else. So, when I say learn to put yourself first, what I really mean is learn to ACCEPT this truth.

HOW TO PUT YOURSELF FIRST

• Learn to say "no" to the demands of other people if they thwart your own demands or needs. Learn how to be more assertive and improve your confidence.
• Find a balance between work and family. Take the time you need for yourself and respect your own needs. Hopefully, you love your work, and assuredly you love your family; but nothing comes first in your life except your life.
• Avoid demanding and abusive people. They are self-centered, not putting their self first. Recognize this important distinction.
• Listen to your body and don’t allow others to assert pressure on you to eat differently or exercise differently without your consent. Let’s say you are out for dinner and you don’t feel like eating chicken; well, just because somebody tries to convince you to eat it because it's the house specialty doesn't mean you give in and order the chicken. You eat what you truly feel like eating (but that doesn't mean eat by rote habit, either).

Putting yourself first means that you give priority to your own personal needs to rest, relax, have fun, and so on. You will become a better person'; you’ll be healthier and have more energy, and be able to give more to others than ever before as a result.

Make sure to check out other articles and the newsletters archives where you can find tips, based on my personal experience, for improving your self-esteem.

Hypnosis Download

Download now Putting yourself first and get a new perspective on things. Think of Putting Yourself First for a Change as stopping for fuel. A car isn't being selfish when it stops for fuel. It needs to do this so it can serve the situation as well as possible. It can start to feel really liberating when you prioritize looking after your own needs sometimes. It will give you a new lease of life.

Recommended pages

• Last month article :Self-hate. Self hate also known as self-hatred is a destructive pattern that can ruin your life. Learn more about what is self hate, how is developed and ways for overcoming it .
• Self Confidence Articles. All you need to be confident .
• Check Techniques to make you feel good .

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