Self Esteem Newsletter Issue # 41
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Thoughts of insipiration “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby |
Women and Self Esteem by Carla Valencia
Many women who are suffering from Low Self Esteem suffer so because they have absorbed negative messages about what it means to be female which come from their culture and parent’s influence.
What is Self-Esteem?
Having a healthy self-esteem means that you are comfortable with yourself and you are okay the way that you are. Self-esteem means that you to feel good about yourself and does not depend upon anyone else. Self-esteem comes from inside.
What are some of the messages that women have received that might have influenced their self esteem?:
- The media: These messages insist on following strict diets, having a perfect body, and so on, so that many women feel : I can never be good enough. They put emphasis regarding what is beautiful and what is not.
- Cultural beliefs: Some women may been raised to believe that they have to postpone their own needs in order to please other people. This belief leads to the poor self-esteem that typically results in depression, anxiety, and physical sickness health. The message is: If women always do what others want, they will approve them.
- Sense of worth: Women with low self esteem don't go for regular checkups, exercise, or take care of their personal needs because they really don't think they're worthy to take up other people's time with these trivial matters. Women who suffer from low self esteem stay in abusive relationships because they feel like they don't deserve anything better. Furthermore, if they have children they are unable to command respect and set boundaries because they feel like they are unworthy of the respect. The message might have been: Others are more important than me.
Some tips to help women increase their self esteem
- Learn to Put Yourself First. You won't be able to give what you don’t have. If you don't put yourself first, you will become bitter and resentful.
- Don't allow other people to abuse you. You deserve better. Think about how your family and culture have influenced your experience of being a woman. Then, think for yourself how you believe a woman needs and deserves to be treated.
- Remember that you are equal in value to a man. Your gender is not a problem, but maybe your personal beliefs are.
- Overcome the Victim Mentality. Women must stop allowing themselves to feel like victims. They must also stop blaming men and society for their problems. Women who are parents have a great need of self-esteem. They are role models for daughters and, for their sons; they are the image of the kind of woman their son will seek out as a wife.
A woman's self esteem begins with acceptance of being female. Your body is not exactly like a man's. Your temperament is not exactly like a man's. There is nothing wrong with you for being female , but there is also nothing wrong with men for being men. Never let yourself be a victim, but also never put the blame on a man for your misery. A strong woman does not play the blame game; she overcomes her personal problems because she knows she can.
Co dependency Symptoms
Codependency is not a disease , it is an emotional and behavioral condition that is learned and affects the ability to have a healthy relationship with others. Find out more about codependency!
Recommended pages
- Eating Disorders.People who suffer eating disorders often have a distorted perception of their body . Your self image influence your behavior. Also your self esteem and confidence. It is the opinion of how you think you look to other people. It involves also how you see yourself and how you think other people judge you.
- Hypnosis Techniques.Self Hypnosis can be a very effective tool to treat many disorders or to improve different areas including self esteem..
- Check Free Self Esteem and Confidence Resources Free resources to help you to feel good about yourself and build confidence.
Building Self Esteem hypnosis download .
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