When you are always expecting the worst you create and attitude of pessimism . If you are constantly expecting the worst you are either thinking that somebody will do something bad to you or that you won't be able to achieve what you want.

When you inmerse yourself in pessimism you become a victim . Because if you are expecting the worst in life. You conclusion then would be that you cannot do anything about it. You become powerless. A sign of low self esteem.

A while ago I thought about my father. He was an agronomy engineering and had a farm that named it : "The Struggle". I am not kidding , that was the real name. He always called himself an optimist. I am not judging him, but I kept asking myself why would he choose to have an attitude of pessimism?.

I realized then that sometimes we keep acting out an image that is no real , and like him I usually showed a mask that said: I am an optimist, but inside of me I knew that I wasn't. This was a relief for me, because I began to understand that pessimism is a sign of low self esteem.

Having a low self esteem might lead us to believe that we will fail at achieving what we want and therefore, we live our lives with pessimism. If you expect the worst , feelings of fear and anxiety dominate your life. Having fear and anxiety empowers self-criticism and pessimism.

Optimism , on the other hand, helps to create a healthier and positive life. I am not talking about going into denial or to have a Pollyanna attitude.

If your self esteem is healthy , you are going to expect the best in every situation. If the outcome you are expecting doesn't happen, you will find yourself in a better position and move on in life. Need help dealing with pessimism?. Try this tools:

• Stop Negative Thoughts!. Teaches you a model for assessing the effects of your thoughts and changing them. It helps you on an unconscious level by showing you how to let negative thoughts drift by without taking any notice. Excellent for dealing with pessimism.
• Get Rid of Victim Mentality. To stop being a victim you need to stop looking like a victim. The way you use your eyes, the way you hold your head and the way you walk all speak volumes on your sense of personal respect and power. Feel more powerful, tough, firm but still fair and approachable.
• Think positively with the help of hypnosis
. And as Winston Churchill said: "The optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity." Positive thinking puts you on the lookout for the possibilities in new situations. Positive thinkers don't always expect everything to work out, but they do know how to apply a positive spin when things go wrong.

A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who makes opportunities of his difficulties. ~Harry Truman