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Self esteem and fear of being selfish

Boost your Self Esteem Newsletter Issue # 25

Self esteem is not selfish. Many people are afraid to build self esteem because they don’t want to become selfish. People with low self esteem are selfish because they don’t take care of others. To have a good self esteem means that you can take care of you and other people. Selfishness is the opposite, when you take care of yourself and don't care about others.

You may find this hard to do. May be you were raised to believe that everything comes first: work, family, partner, and friends. If I put myself first I felt guilty. I was supposed to look after everybody before me.

Finally, I became aware that behaving in this was I was damaging myself , my self esteem. If you don't prioritize your life, health, fitness and well being you won't have anything to give. What are some ways to put this in practice so that to start living a balance and happy life?. Here are some suggestions:

  • Put yourself first so that anyone will benefit from it. How can you be a loving if you don't have enough energy, you are tired all the time and so stress that you cannot even listen to them? You have to focus on your own needs , nurture yourself first.
  • Get enough sleep. You need to have a good sleep otherwise you will be irritated all the time and become impatient.
  • Eat right. Try to choose the right and good foods you need, healthy foods. Drink plenty of water to hydratate your body.
  • Do exercise . Practice something that you enjoy doing.
  • Take care of your body brush your teeth, hydrate your skin, get a massage, show your body your appreciation and love it.
  • Be grateful.

Start building self esteem, don't be afraid of selfishness, remember that is the only way you can take of others.

"If you don't love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others." Dalai Lama.

“A red rose is not selfish because it wants to be a red rose. It would be horribly selfish if it wanted all the other flowers in the garden to be both red and roses.”

Self esteem resources

BMV Quantum Subliminal CD: End The Need to Please CD - Develop Inner Strength & Courage to Put Yourself First - Peak Self-Worth Self-Confidence Anti-Submissive Personality Mind Program with NLP, Brainwave Entrainment Technology and Ultrasonic Ultra-Silent Subliminal Programming. Powerful affirmations program, hypnotic suggestions and thousands of positive subliminal messages program your subconscious mind to live a positive life.

Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone. Most of us have a healthy need for appreciation from time to time. However, some of us require constant approval from peers, parents, children, friends, superiors, and co-workers that results in never-ending disappointment in our lives. Find positive self esteem adjustment sugestions for the approval-addicted psyche.

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