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Self esteem FAQ: Lack of Self Confidence
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Question:
I lack self confidence in myself. This problem has been since
2006. I have the skills know how to do it. But I'm still having negative thoughts. Please tell me what I can do to improve myself before it's too
late. Love your website but I have
the skills do not hang with negative people.Thanks Have a great weekend.
Miller.
Answer and advise:
Hi, you are in a great place because you are aware that your negative thoughts are pulling you down.
In order to overcome these thoughts the best way is to be aware of them and change them right away. There are two issues I can see .
- One is Lack of Self Confidence in yourself: to build confidence you need
to work inside with your inner talk. You have to be open to make mistakes,
learn from them and then always congratulate yourself for you have done
well.
Confidence is related to your abilities, so you need to master what you do and allow yourself to feel good about it and proud. Sometimes you might feel you are not good just because you failed an exam or lost a job, etc. Try not to believe that the whole of you is hopeless, unkind or a failure, when really it is just one part of your .
Take what you call failures as learning and move on. But always focus on what you do well. - The other issue is negative thoughts: As I said before, the minute you notice a negative thoughts jus say to yourself: thank you, and change it to a positive one. Is practice. You can read books or listen to tapes to set your mind in a positive state. We are always going to have negative thoughts because of our past habits and wounds. The inner critic sometimes is loud, but the same way you learned how to listen to your negative thoughts, the same way you will learn now how to talk to them back and make them positive.
There are some books likes: Beyond Negative Thinking: Breaking The Cycle Of Depressing And Anxious Thoughts
I hope this helps, let me know if you need anything else.
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