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Self esteem FAQ: Lack of Confidence when speaking to others and body language problems

Question:
Hi ,I'm 24 yr old and i lack self-confidence while talking to others. I'm bored of myself. I can't speak or walk confidently especially while others are watching. Body language is bad.I fail to be myself. I consulted a psychologist and I was good for a few days. Now again I'm like in the old days. Is there are a permanent solution? Pls help me out. Rohan

Answer and advise:

Hi, if you can't speak or walk confidently while others are watching I would suggest you to work on fear of rejection. Please read the article about fear of rejection you can learn the symptoms and some steps to overcome it. You can also read about Insecurity to find out about the reasons and steps to take to become more confident.

In order to overcome your lack of confidence you have to take the time to find out the reasons and be patient with yourself. It is a proces that involves instropection and practice. Here are some suggestions:

1. Work on lack of Self Confidence in yourself: to build confidence you need to work inside with your inner talk. You have to be open to make mistakes, learn from them and then always congratulate yourself for you have done well.
   Confidence is related to your abilities, so you need to master what you do and allow yourself to feel good about it and proud.


2. Work on negative thoughts:. You can read books or listen to tapes to set your mind in a positive state. We are always going to have negative thoughts because of our past habits and wounds.

   There are some books likes: Beyond Negative Thinking: Breaking The Cycle Of Depressing And Anxious Thoughts by Joseph T. Martorano that can help or even there is a great cd I have listened for a long time that helped me a lot by Louise Hay :Self-Esteem Affirmations that might help you to understand your wordiness and see event in a different way.

3. Read also about Developing a Positive Self Image , and learn 7 Public Speaking Survival Tips .
4. Check the page on Self-Hypnosis techniques , self-hypnosis can be a very effective tool to treat many disorders or to improve different areas and there is a lot of missconception about it. Why not to try some techniques like Self Esteem Techniques or Emotional Freedom Techniques that will help you to let go of negativity, wounds and traumas and make you feel good about yourself.

Remember that the key in this process is to find out the real reasons that are causing your problem. Take the time you need and be patient with yourself.

I hope this helps.

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