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Part of the first Chapter of my Ebook
What is Self-Esteem?
"Let every man be respected as an individual and no man idolized". Albert Einstein
Great spiritual leaders have mentioned the truth regarding loving yourself throughout all the great religions and their scriptures. It seems to me that we cannot say that we love other people and we love God, but do not love ourselves...or if we do say that, we are hypocritical whether we mean to be or not.
I have compiled some thoughts about these leaders, and all of them come to the same conclusion: love yourself first.
"If you don't love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others." Dalai Lama.
"You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. Buddha.
On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. 'Teacher,' he asked, 'what must I do to inherit eternal life?' 'What is written in the Law?' he replied. 'How do you read it?' He answered: 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' 'You have answered correctly,' Jesus replied. 'Do this and you will live.'" (Luke 10:25-28).
And it's not only spiritual leaders who agree with it; there are also famous writers, scientists, and philosophers who have arrived at the same conclusion.
"He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals". Benjamin Franklin.
"Self-love is the instrument of our preservation".Voltaire.
"Self-love, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting". William Shakespeare.
"Well-ordered self-love is right and natural". Saint Thomas Aquinas.
"Self-esteem and self-love are the opposites of fear; the more you like yourself, the less you fear anything". Brian Tracy
"The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe." Deepak Chopra.
On Loving Oneself by Lama Zopa Rinpoche he said: "To love oneself is not contradictory to what Mahayana Buddhism teaches. It is not saying one should not love oneself. Renouncing oneself and cherishing others is not contradictory to loving oneself. In fact, practicing the Mahayana teaching, bodhicitta, is the best way to love oneself, to take care of oneself".
Therefore, I conclude that self esteem is the acceptance, respect, trust, and belief in You. When you accept yourself, you feel comfortable with yourself. You can live with both your personal strengths and weaknesses without feeling the need to change to please others.
When you respect yourself, you honor and value your own dignity and you value yourself as a unique human being. You treat yourself the same way that you would treat someone else you respect.
Your self esteem, in the beginning, is acquired though your family, teachers, friends, and society, and for all of us it determines the way we interact with other people and conduct our personal relationships, work, and life in general.
Self esteem is based on how you see your abilities and your worth as a unique individual. People with low self esteem feel negative about themselves; therefore, they are often anxious, and depressed. On the other hand, people with healthy self esteem feel good about themselves and are often confident and secure. They know that it is important to take care of themselves.