Author: Stephanie DillonStephanie Dillon is a clinical psychologist with that appears frequently in the television, radio and print media. She has produced self esteem workshops for federal, state and local governments and for corporations, school districts, colleges and universities. She has twenty-five years of experience as a psychotherapist and teacher.
Stephanie Dillon Books
Healing yourself: The eight secrets of Self Esteem
"Self esteem is not an all-or-nothing proposition. We all have it, and we don't We all have good self esteem in some areas and underdeveloped self esteem in others. You ay be the top computer salesperson in your company. Yo may know your computers better than anyone else and be excellent at demonstrating their capabilities. YOu may be energetic and enthusiastic, and as a result, people tend to buy from you. Your self esteem in your professional life is strong and healthy. And yet. you could be paralyzed when it comes to some of your personal relationships. You may have a boyfriend who yells at you and makes you feel terrible. Yo may have a mother who makes you feel guilty by nagging you about not getting over to see her more often. Your self esteem in your most intimate relationships is not all you would like it to be." From: The Woman's Guide to Total Self-Esteem: The Eight Secrets You Need to Know (page 18).
Facing the mirror on the wall
In order to have a healthy total self esteem, you need to have a realistic view of yourself: wonderful in some ways, average in others, flawed and limited in others. To have the most resilient self esteem, you need to be able to see yourself as you really are, without judging yourself. Knowing who you really are allows you to take credit for your strengths and make a decision to change something you don't like about yourself. You need to be able to look in the mirror and have the mirror reflect back the truth. Self objectivity is the ability to accurately assess strengths and weaknesses . First, in order to be objective about yourself, you need to understand that temperamental factors, such as attention deficit disorder, learning disorders, a familial tendency to gain weight, or a predisposition to anxiety or depression, are biologically driven and not anyone's fault. If you don't recognize the origin of such characteristics, you may feel unnecessarily ashamed or defective. The Woman's Guide to Total Self-Esteem: The Eight Secrets You Need to Know (page 106).
Stephanie Dillon Self Esteem Quotes
- Most of us sabotage our own efforts to improve self esteem by setting goals and expectations for accomplishment and change that are unrealistically high..
- Body acceptance is being comfortably related to your physical self and having a kind and cooperative relationship with your body.
- Knowing exactly what you feel is critical information for your survival and for being as happy, satisfied and creative as you can be.
1. Stephanie Dillon. 2001. The woman's guide to total self esteem. United States. Publishers Group West.