A healthy self esteem starts with awareness. Paying attention about your needs and goals. You are usually encouraged to ignore your own needs because you have to concentrate on living up to other’s expectations.
When I was a child I learned that other people were more important than me. My parents didn’t tell me this with words, but by example. To build a good self esteem requires that you listen to your intuition, sensations, and insights.
12 characteristics of a Healthy Self Esteem
I would like to share 8 characteristics of a healthy self esteem. How I have learned to apply them in daily life.
I have learned to be more conscious every day, through awareness. I do this by listening to me. My own reactions, watching and observing them. By listening to my body: “I am hungry or just eating because I am supposed to do it now?”. Listening to my intuition.
Learning from mistakes
Learning to say. “I made a mistake”, and learn from it. We make mistakes and the best way I found to understand this is by learning from them.
Listening to other’s point of view
Why is hard to listen to other’s people point of view?. Because the tendency is to be right. I had the truth and I always had to be right.
For many years I kept ignoring compliments because I thought that in doing so I was humble, till understood that by acknowledging them my self esteem raised. People with high amounts of self esteem acknowledge compliments given by others and they genuinely appreciate those compliments.
I take care of myself physically by exercising and eating well. Emotionally by clearing negative emotions. Mentally buy reading, learning new things. Spiritually by meditating, being in silence, or praying. For more information check the past newsletters: Taking care of you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually
- How to take care of your Spirit.
- Managing emotions.
- How to take care of your mind.
- How to take care of your body .
Being comfotable looking in the mirror
As Louise Hay teaches: “Mirror work is the most effective method I’ve found for learning to love yourself and see the world as a safe and loving place. I have been teaching people how to do mirror work for as long as I have been teaching affirmations”.
If you are not comfortable looking in the mirror, you will never have a healthy self-esteem. However , is not only about being comfortable is also about being happy about you see in the mirror.
Respecting other people differences
We are all different. It took me a long time to understand this. I usually felt safe with people that were just like me. Respecting other people differences doesn’t mean to agree with them. Is to understand that they have the right to be different and deserve respect as human beings.
Taking responsibility for our own life
I was raised in an environment were self-responsibility almost didn’t existed. It was always other’s people fault. Something outside to blame. When I began to take responsibility for my own life and everything started to change.
People with a healthy self esteem love themselves unconditionally. Loving yourself means that you treat yourself with respect, and you accept yourself for what you are. It also means that you give yourself the best and you always put yourself first.
Being able to speak and act from our own convictions
I was so afraid to speak up, I had to be the good girl and a pleasing person. Through the years I have learned that by speaking up, I feel better about myself, because I am being loyal to myself.
Focus on your strengths
Focusing on your strengths will help you to become a better person and increase your self esteem. If you focus on your weaknesses will not help you to growth and will keep you in negativity.
Having a sense of purpose, a direction
For many years I have lived hypnotized, not knowing were to go , without any purpose just living in an automatic. Having a sense of purpose is having a good self esteem. You know that what you do is important . You are here for a reason.
Through the years I have learned that in order to have a healthy self-esteem we have to become aware that we have our own value. No matter who do we have in front of us, and that other people have value like us.