Emotions do not come as the result of an observation or an experiment , but rather as the result of the things we say to ourselves about those perceptions or situations. Marilyn J. Sorensen.
Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact. William James
An emotion is both a mental and a physical event. Nathaniel Branden The mechanism of primary emotions does not describe the full range of emotional behaviors. They are, to be sure, the basic mechanism. However, I believe that in terms of an individual’s development they are followed by mechanisms of secondary emotions, which occur once we begin experiencing feelings and forming systematic connections between categories of objects and situations, on the one hand, and primary emotions, on the other. Antonio Damasio.
When emotions are expressed…all systems are united and made whole. When emotions are repressed, denied, not allowed to be whatever they may be, our network pathways get blocked, stopping the flow of the vital feel-good, unifying chemicals that run both our biology and our behavior. Candace Pert
How often in your life have you been criticized for having the feelings you do?. Did this make you feel invalidated?. How often do you simply stuff your feelings and agree with others, saying yes, when you really mean no. Catherine Cardinal.
Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts, and you are the slave to your emotions. Elizabeth Gilbert
Fear cannot be without hope nor hope without fear. Baruch Spinoza
Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you. Joel Osteen
Positive emotions, such as the feelings of love, kindness, self-worth, confidence and optimism, produce a better person and a good destiny. Dr T.P.Chia An exceptionally positive emotional response indicates that you’re summoning the divine energy of intention and allowing that energy to flow to you in nonresistant manner. Wayne Dyer.
Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways. Sigmund Freud Often, feelings of sadness, uneasiness, and loneliness are vague and unattached to specific events. This makes it more challenging to find ways to turn you mood around. When you find yourself in a funk, focus on what you’re feeling. Alan Marlatt.
Just like children, emotions heal when they are heard and validated . Jill Bolte Taylor
To overcome negative emotions, consulting intuition is always useful. How can it guide you. During nervous periods, it offers a more centered alternative to agitation. Intuition is a neutral from of information that allows you to soberly gauge the validity of your worries. If you tune in and find out they’re unfounded, you’ll be relieved. If they are founded, you can develop a strategy to deal with them. Judith Orloff.
The essential difference between emotion and reason is that emotion leads to action while reason leads to conclusions. Donald Calne
The sign of intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason. Marya Mannes.
I have talked about choosing rather than acting from compulsion. When you feel that you have to live according to someone else’s direction or live so that you never disappoint or hurt anybody, then your life is a continual assessment of whether or not you please other people. Virginia Satir.
Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance . Brian Tracy
The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication. Daniel Goleman
A huge part of what a kid learns when they’re growing up is social and emotional development. As adults, we take it for granted that other people have emotions that are different from ours, and we can identify what they are, but those are skills that children have to learn. Tim Schafer
The emotional reaction in the peak experience has a special flavor of wonder, of awe, of reverence, of humility and surrender before the experience as before something great. Abraham H. Maslow.
What kind of guilt comes from being true to yourself but not to others?. As we have seen, being true to yourself may at times intrinsically and necessarily be in conflict with being true to others. Abraham H. Maslow.
Managing our emotions increases intuition and clarity. It helps us self-regulate our brain chemicals and internal hormones. It gives us natural highs, the real fountain of youth we’ve been searching for. It enables us to drink from elixirs locked within our cells, just waiting for us to discover them. Doc Childre
But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job. Daniel Goleman.
Sometimes you can just step into the character, and you get all your feelings and emotions just from sympathizing with her and being her. But then, other times, you just have to resort back to anything that you’ve been through in your own life and try to play that. Charity Shea
Positive feelings come from being honest about yourself and accepting your personality, and physical characteristics, warts and all; and, from belonging to a family that accepts you without question. Willard Scott
Completeness? Happiness? These words don’t come close to describing my emotions. There truly is nothing I can say to capture what motherhood means to me, particularly given my medical history. Anita Baker
Regret is an odd emotion because it comes only upon reflection. Regret lacks immediacy, and so its power seldom influences events when it could do some good. William O’Rourke I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them. Oscar Wilde Spending time with negative people can be the fastest way to ruin a good mood. Their pessimistic outlooks and gloomy attitude can decrease our motivation and change the way we feel. But allowing a negative person to dictate your emotions gives them too much power in your life. Make a conscious effort to choose your attitude. Amy Morin If you hold back on the emotions – if you don’t allow yourself to go all the way through them – you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely. Mitch Albom
Your real life is in the here and now. Once you figure out what kinds of experiences cause you to feel certain ways, you can change either the experiences, or when that’s not possible, change your responses to them. Alan Marlatt.
You cannot make yourself feel something you do not feel, but you can make yourself do right in spite of your feelings. Pearl S. Buck
Emotions are the next frontier to be understood and conquered. To manage our emotions is not to drug them or suppress them, but to understand them so that we can intelligently direct our emotional energies and intentions…It’s time for human beings to grow up emotionally, to mature into emotionally managed and responsible citizens. No magic pill will do it. Doc Childre
If you close your eyes for just one minute, you can experience how a feeling or emotion is born, grows old, and passes away. It’s like a wave rising to a peak and then breaking apart. Bhante Gunaratana
Emotional intelligence, more than any other factor, more than I.Q. or expertise, accounts for 85% to 90% of success at work… I.Q. is a threshold competence. You need it, but it doesn’t make you a star. Emotional intelligence can. Warren G. Bennis
My research has shown me that when emotions are expressed ,which is to say that the biochemicals that are the substrate of emotion are flowing freely, all systems are united and made whole. When emotions are repressed, denied, not allowed to be whatever they may be, our network pathways get blocked, stopping the flow of the vital feel-good, unifying chemicals that run both our biology and our behavior. Candace Pert
Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. Brian Tracy
Sometimes I get a little confused because with dancing I can express my emotions with my body. With acting you have to do it with your face and your expressions, and then with animated shows you have to use your voice and use your inflections. So it’s definitely a challenge to transfer from each genre of entertainment. Alyson Stoner
All emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotions is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts you. Reiner Maria Rilke
Our feelings are the source of our energy, they provide; they provide the horsepower that makes it possible for us to accomplish the tasks of living…Since our feelings work for us, we should treat them with respect. Scott Peck
I get mad. I get sad. I have all those emotions. But I just like to keep them to myself. I don’t think my fans need to be bothered with if I’m mad or sad about something. I should just be concerned that they are keeping up with my music or I’m making them happy with my show. Demi Lovato
Emotional turmoil is rooted in what we miss, deny, or forget about ourselves and others. Alan Robert Neal
The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts. Charles Darwin
The anger-guilt cycle is common. Parent-child relationships are very complex; those who find themselves in this cycle may repeat it for decades. They may try to think of what they can do differently, trying to come up with a strategy that will make their next time with the parent more fulfilling. They may try to ignore their own feelings, make excuses for a particular statement or response. Marilyn J. Sorensen.
Positivity doesn’t just change the contents of your mind…It widens the span of possibilities that you see. Barbara Fredrickson
We have to become more conscious of our feeling-world. By learning to identify the “emotional baggage” and manage our feeling-world reactions, we can view life based on current information instead of being held captive by our past. However, since emotional processes can work faster than the mind, it takes a power stronger than the mind to bend perception, override emotional circuitry, and provide us with intuitive feeling instead. It takes the power of the heart. Doc Childre
Disappointment is inevitable. But to become discouraged, there’s a choice I make. God would never discourage me. He would always point me to himself to trust him. Therefore, my discouragement is from Satan. As you go through the emotions that we have, hostility is not from God, bitterness, unforgiveness, all of these are attacks from Satan. Charles Stanley.
Never allow anyone to rain on your parade and thus cast a pall of gloom and defeat on the entire day. Remember that no talent, no self-denial, no brains, no character, are required to set up in the fault-finding business. Nothing external can have any power over you unless you permit it. Your time is too precious to be sacrificed in wasted days combating the menial forces of hate, jealously, and envy. Guard your fragile life carefully. Only God can shape a flower, but any foolish child can pull it to pieces. Og Mandino
Five enemies of peace inhabit with us – avarice, ambition, envy, anger, and pride; if these were to be banished, we should infallibly enjoy perpetual peace. Petrarch . Pride, avarice, and envy are in every home. – Thornton Wilder.
Envy is an insult to oneself. – Yevgeny Yevtushenko.
Of the seven deadly sins, only envy is no fun at all. – Joseph Epstein
Man will do many things to get himself loved; he will do all things to get himself envied. M. Twain Envy is ignorance. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Our envy always lasts longer than the happiness of those we envy. François de La Rochefoucauld
Jealousy is a poorly disguised need for power and control. Jealous people are tyrannical, controlling, domineering and completely insensitive to the impact of their actions on their partner . – Phil MacGrow .
If the mind is jealous and envious, you will feel very uncomfortable—like you have a big stone in your mind. – Zopa Rinpoche
A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity. – Robert A. Heinlein
Plain women are always jealous of their husbands. Beautiful women never are. They are always so occupied with being jealous of other women’s husbands. – Oscar Wilde Jealousy, that dragon which slays love under the pretence of keeping it alive. – Henry Ellis
Jealousy is bred in doubts. When those doubts change into certainties, then the passion either ceases or turns absolute madness. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld.
Don’t waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. – Mary Schmich
The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. William Penn.
Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world. – Helen Keller
Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat and worry with laughter at your predicaments, thus freeing your mind to think clearly toward the solution that is certain to come. Never take yourself too seriously. – Og Mandino .
I think seriousness is a mask of self-importance and self-importance in turn is a mask for self-pity. So if you’re really going to pursue a spiritual way of living in the world, you must be lighthearted and carefree, have humor, be able to tolerate ambiguity and embrace uncertainty, and be forgiving of yourself and everybody else. Deepak Chopra
Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one’s best. Harry Emerson .
Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.- John W. Gardner
Self-pity comes so naturally to all of us. The most solid happiness can be shaken by the compassion of a fool. – Andre Maurois
Guilt is anger directed at ourselves. Peter McWilliams.
If guilt means extending worry about what you have done, then it does not help. – Jeffrey Hopkins.
I think every parent, every generation has wanted their children to do better and have a higher standard of living. But I think there’s too much guilt. – Phil McGraw.
Guilt is the price we pay willingly for doing what we are going to do anyway. – Isabelle Holland If you did not feel guilty, you could not attack . A course in miracles. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy. – Wyne Dyer.
Guilt is regret for what we’ve done. Regret is guilt for what we didn’t do. – Unknown.
With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt. Zig Ziglar