Without trust, you really haven’t got anything substantial in a relationship. You must be able to trust your partner, and s/he must be able to trust you.
How to build trust in a relationship tips
Do not keep secrets. This does not mean that you feel like you have to explain your entire life, especially your past, to your partner at every turn. It does mean that when something comes up in the present that something in your past may be relevant to, you honestly talk about it. You also don’t do something important or that would have a profound impact on your relationship without telling your partner about it. You cannot act as if you are all by yourself in an intimate relationship.
Let your needs be known. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. This especially goes for women! You have to tell them what you need from the relationship, or else they may not understand to give it to you. Some things they will be able to figure out, but many other things they won’t. Don’t make assumptions that they do, or should, just know.
Be reliable. When you say you will do something, do it. When you have a date, show up on time, and if you are running late call and say so. Make your word law. Try not to make promises that you can’t keep, even if you mean well by doing so.
Communicate. You have to have a partner with whom you can communicate. This is why looks, all by themselves, are not important: it’s because they don’t guarantee communication at all. If your partner asks you questions, answer them right away and with a straight, no-nonsense answer. When you have questions, don’t hold them in-ask them. Don’t make accusations, either.
Believe your partner is competent. If you think that your partner is stupid or immature, why do you want to be with him (or her)? Believe that they can handle what you tell them, who you are, and what you need from the relationship.
The beginning of the crucial trust in a relationship is choosing a healthy relationship to be in. If you have that, then don’t wreck it with a lack of trust. Be totally honest and expect the same in return.
5 Intimacy Tips.
If you have a fear of intimacy is because you have a fear of abandonment, betrayal, and rejection. Fear of intimacy is at the heart of codependency. You might have these fears because you were wounded in early childhood and you feel unworthy and unlovable now.
Building intimacy is important in a relationship means feeling the opposite of alone and isolated. Intimacy requires dialogue and reciprocity. Many people are very afraid of the idea of intimacy because they think it means that they could get hurt, but when you build intimacy, fear of intimacy diminishes with time.
- Talk things out together and be honest. You cannot create a healthy relationship based on shouting at each other or any kind of “companionable silence”. You need to talk to the other person, even if you’re not the garrulous type. And never try to hide your feelings, even when you disagree with them. Always wear your heart on your sleeve with the one you love. Be honest with every communication.
- Acceptance. Your partner is who she is. You are who you are. Never try to change each other. This is an all-too-common mistake. You need to accept the one you love as she is, and you have to make it clear to her that you expect the same from her. You are supposed to love someone for what you see in them-not for what you believe you can put in them.
- Have special evenings together. This can mean sex, of course, but it doesn’t have to. It can mean going out on a date, even if you’re married. The important thing is to keep these as regular occurrences. Don’t wait for holidays and birthdays. Have a special evening together no less than once per week. Have one every night, if that’s possible.
- Take time to alone with yourself. It is crucial that you understand that you do not need to be around the one you love 24-7. You need alone time, and so does she. She may need less than you, or vice versa. The two of you need to reach an understanding about this matter, if you find that you have conflicts here. You do not want to become emotionally dependent on the other person. You want to enjoy their company, not use them as a drug.
- Laugh and play together. Stop being so serious together all the time! So you are in a serious relationship-so what? You need to have times together when you drive go-karts or try to spray each other with whipped cream. Laughter is infectious for good reason.
Building intimacy is a matter of both partners working on open communication and trust above all else. Intimacy is the best thing you’ll ever experience in life. But it is up to you to allow it to happen. And that simply means doing the things that allow it to manifest, without fear.