When you lack self-esteem you self-sabotage. Self-sabotage is a pattern of behavior which you use mostly or completely subconsciously to prevent yourself from having what you really desire or accomplishing a very important personal task. Why would someone engage in self-sabotage? It’s the self-fulfilling prophecy of those who lack self esteem: They believe that they don’t deserve success or to have their deepest desires fulfilled; they are unworthy somehow. Low self esteem or poor self-image lead to sabotage of one’s own self.
Self-sabotage mainly manifests in two ways.
• One is where you reach a certain level of success or desire-fulfillment, then suddenly you can’t go any farther no matter how hard you try, no matter what you think up to advance yourself.
• The other is where you attain high levels of success or joy, but then quickly and “mysteriously” lose it all (this does not refer to real personal tragedy, which can and does happen at times–that wouldn’t be all that “mysterious”).
Examples of self-sabotage could include:
1. The young novelist who writes a super best-seller and makes millions of dollars only to suddenly descend into alcoholism and become unable to write.
2. A beautiful, intelligent woman who has been in a rotten marriage to a neglectful liar for years and has wanted a divorce but, when meeting the true love of her life, finds all kinds of “reasons” why she “can’t” end her depressing marriage to be with her love; this might include “unintentionally” setting herself up for betrayal by her dishonest husband.
3. The Internet entrepreneur who keeps getting different online businesses up and running and rising into what will be super success, only to abandon them because they aren’t building “fast enough”…then to “suddenly realize” in hindsight every time that they were about to soar and make him huge money.
4. The rising football star who commits a crime so serious that he is banned from the game and must go to prison.
5. The 4.0 Ph.D. candidate in biogenetics who gets involved with drugs and quits the university to get “high” all the time.
How to stop self-sabotage:
1. Take responsibility for it. You will need to be strictly honest with the mirror. Stop playing Victim Mentality. Don’t blame others.
2. Notice when self-sabotage might happen in your life. See it for what it is. Always assess everything you’re doing and ask yourself, “If I do this-or-that will it lead me to more success or cause me to lose or fail?”
3. Give yourself self-esteem. Realize that you are not only worthy of it, it is your right to discover and live a life filled with joy.
4. Don’t judge yourself too harshly. Being self-critical is one thing; being masochistic is another thing entirely. Be Less Critical
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Everyone sabotages himself or herself from time to time. Sometimes we sabotage ourselves to the point of not being able to live the happy life we really want to live.